Breaking the Silence Around Infertility: Support, Stories + Hope with Abbe Feder
In this episode, I sit down with Abbe Feder, infertility coach, founder of Encircle Fertility, and host of Women’s Wellness with Abbe Feder, for a deeply honest conversation about what infertility really looks like - emotionally, relationally, and practically.
Abbe shares her six-year fertility journey, including IUIs, IVF retrievals and transfers, loss, reduction, and ultimately becoming a mother to twins. From navigating 16 rounds of treatment to building a fertility support team, she opens up about what helped her survive and what she wishes every woman knew sooner.
If you are trying to conceive, considering IVF or egg freezing, navigating secondary infertility, or supporting someone who is, this episode will help you feel less alone and more empowered.
This is a real-talk conversation about advocacy, boundaries, hope, and building your village.
Key insights:
• Abbe’s six-year infertility journey
• The emotional toll of IVF and why infertility is often compared to cancer-level stress
• What IUI and IVF actually is and realistic success rates
• Why hope doesn’t make you pregnant (and losing hope doesn’t ruin your chances)
• The power of “feel it till you heal it” and setting a pity-party deadline
• Egg freezing and what Abbe wishes she knew
• How to choose a fertility doctor beyond just statistics
• Why clinic experience and access matter just as much as credentials
• Building your fertility team: coach, acupuncturist, therapist, nutritionist
• Secondary infertility and relationship strain
• What not to say to someone navigating infertility
• Setting boundaries with friends and family during treatment
• Survivor’s guilt after pregnancy
• Why infertility is not a solo journey
Infertility isn’t just medical. It’s emotional. It’s identity-shifting. It’s relational. You deserve support through it.
Dive deeper with us!
The conversations don’t end here, they ripple into real life.
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